Allow me to save you a few “searches.”

In the queer community, there are a lot of words. The acronym (LGBTQ2IADP+) has grown longer, and the collective amount of patience to learn what each letter stands for has grown shorter. …


“You look and sound different, but somehow I still see you in there.”

My mom is pretty cool. She sings in a nationally recognized gospel choir and plays the tambourine (at the same time). She’s a single mother, and she’s helping to put me through college. She’s a mixed race lesbian who grew up in the 70s. She plays softball and slides into…


A word to the wise from your digital trans friend

435 days. 435 days since my first shot of testosterone, taken alone in the bathroom of my childhood home while following along with a YouTube tutorial shared by my PCP.

As T has begun to stand its ground in my body and make more and more noticeable changes, I’ve consolidated…


I’ve given campus tours for my university, Willamette, since the spring of 2020. Weird timing, I know, but I’ve gotten the hang of it over the last year and a half. …


A gender crisis in writing.

Photo by Imani on Unsplash

I’ve reached a point in my gender that I didn’t expect to hit for at least two more years. I’m passing as a he/him. Most of the time. Unless I specifically choose to make myself pass as a she/her or a they/them.

I’m not used to my gender presentation being…


An androgynous campus tour guide and a yellow skirt walk into a bar.

Picture an afternoon college campus tour. A small liberal arts institution in the Pacific Northwest. A 45 minute stroll through the academic buildings, residence halls, dining spaces, and campus grounds. A sunny day, cracking 90 degrees Fahrenheit. …


Do you remember learning the order of operations for evaluating a math expression in grade school? It was taught as PEMDAS (parentheses, exponents, multiplication, division, addition, and subtraction) or “Please Excuse My Dear Aunt Sally.”

I loved PEMDAS. That process, along with learning my times tables, was the height of…


Story time — and a few wise words from your local they/them.

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Funny story: my gender’s taken on a strange form these days. It’s become a mirrorgender of sorts — the kind where the people who see me pick my gender for me, and they don’t always agree. …


As a young nonbinary adult who’s been out of the closet for more than a year, I’m comfortable with who I am, and my mom is as well. …


*Tosses my binder out the window.*

I had top surgery (FTN) six months ago. Six months. October 8th, 2020. And I’m loving it. (Cue the McDonald’s theme song.)

Whether you’re pre-op and looking to hear about top surgery benefits from another trans person, newly post-op and looking for a light at the end of the tunnel…

theoaknotes

Picture a Gen Z kid explaining gender to you over a coffee date. Hi, I’m Oak. It’s nice to meet you. Find me at theoaknotes@gmail.com. Words: Psychology Today.

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